I want to share with you what I do personally to support living with a chronic illness, and having a successful business - so that you can see it is possible for you, too.
This past year of doing this alternative treatment protocol to eradicate Lyme disease and 20 other co-infections from my body taught me the most beautiful lesson of this entire 15 year journey with chronic illness:
My body is not the enemy.
For years it was the enemy. I was always resentful of my body not keeping up with what my mind desired to do. It was always the problem in my relationship with myself.
I now understand that I can trust my body to tell me what it needs - and that my body also wants what is best for me.
I give my body everything it desires - whether that be weekly massage, or sleeping until 10 am, or building an entire deck system in our back yard to house a hot tub and sauna to support my body’s well being.
I give it 17 weeks off a year from client delivery.
I give it copious amounts of rest. Sleep is my #1 priority, because that plays such a large role in keeping my immune system strong -which is what keeps the Lyme symptoms at bay.
I’m way more compassionate and gentle with my body now.
I need and deserve a LOT of support.
My husband Jeff plays the biggest role in ensuring I can care for my body and run a business that I love. Behind the scenes he handles about 90-95% of what happens in our household. He also goes with me to medical appointments, and helps me make decisions about my health.
Jeff came into our marriage knowing I was living with a chronic illness, and how that impacted my day-to-day life. Jeff is my rock; I’m the first to admit I can’t function without him.
In our first year of dating, at the height of COVID, I was diagnosed with giant fibroids in and around my uterus. I had a total hysterectomy, resulting in a foot-long incision in my abdomen, and 3 days alone in the hospital recovering (because of COVID rules). Jeff took complete care of me during the 3 weeks I spent in bed recovering.
I’m very blessed that Jeff is a willing participant in finding ways to live with illness, and such a competent and loving life partner.
I do the household management that I can from my often-horizontal position - like bill paying, making appointments with household vendors, and keeping us organized.
In my single days, I had a housekeeper and personal assistant who would handle my household’s day-to-day operations - run errands, grocery shop, food prep, walk my dogs, deep clean the fridge - all of the things I couldn’t reliably be available for.
It was humbling to be lying on my couch while people cleaned and worked around me, especially as a single person - like who can’t manage their own individual life?
I had to learn that I deserve whatever support I need, without justification.
I advocate for myself, all of the time.
Finding a physician who would take me seriously, give me an accurate diagnosis, and an appropriate treatment plan took 14 years. I had lots of professionals dismiss or misdiagnose my symptoms.
I had friends who wouldn’t understand why I’d cancel plans at the last minute. I had men I was dating tell me to get over myself. I had relatives who didn’t understand the enormity of what I was facing.
In all this, I learned to be my own advocate, even in the face of not having a clear diagnosis.
I got incredibly good at saying NO to anything that doesn’t feel like a hell-yes to me. Like small talk; replying to cold pitches via DM; working with clients who drain my energy; working more than 3 weeks a month; constantly posting on social media; or staying out late at night.
I connect.
I’m outside almost daily, even if its just sitting on the deck outside my bedroom. I pray; meditate; listen to guided meditations and solfeggio frequencies. I tune in and quiet my mind.
I affirm the small whispers of my soul, and act on them, immediately. Always.
I invest in my health and my growth.
I made a major financial investment in my health this past year to eradicate Lyme disease and 20 other co-infections in my body.
I invested tens of thousands of dollars - even though going into the treatment protocol I knew my energy would be even more diminished, and I might not have the bandwidth to work that much - in order to generate funds to pay for the treatment.
I invested in things for our home that make it easier for me to function during the treatment - like a hot tub and an infrared sauna with red light therapy. We had to regrade our entire backyard and build a deck system in order to bring in the hot tub and sauna. The entire process took months.
I also continue to lean on incredible mentors personally and professionally - including especially my husband - who help me to create a life and business that work FOR me.
I RECEIVE in all ways, all the time.
It’s been humbling, and so, so good for me - to learn that other people WANT to help - so different than what I was taught as a child.
I come from extreme childhood trauma which meant I had a lot of internal re-wiring to do.
Ten years ago I wouldn’t even let someone hold a door open for me. Now it surprises me anytime I am not offered help.
I’ve got so much support in my life and business. Anytime I feel overwhelmed, I get support. When I realize my to-do list is too long, I get support. When I am tired, I ask for help.
I dropped the need to get it right.
Over and over again I’ve been shown that you don’t need to have things going perfectly in your life in order to have a successful business.
You can have health challenges and serve clients. You can live your purpose while lying in bed.
You can have a big mission and serve thousands of people without hustling, or working hard, or doing things perfectly.